I'll Have What She's Having

Since we live by the Spirit, let us keep in step with the Spirit. Let us not become conceited, provoking, and envying each other. Galatians 5:25-26

Remember that great scene from When Harry Met Sally where Sally, Meg Ryan, is in the deli having lunch with Harry, Billy Crystal, and she very dramatically acts out an – I obviously didn’t think through this – hmmm, all out “ physical peak” (that’s an actual synonym from a real thesaurus).  Then, the lady sitting beside her tells the waiter, “I’ll have what she’s having.”

Do you ever do that? Get a glimpse of someone else’s world and think ohhh, “I’ll have what she’s having.” I know I do. The problem is that we never get the back-story, the real story of what’s behind the beautiful picture. We forget that every well put together life has its messy parts. Take Sally for instance, she appears to be carefree, at the height of physical joy and happiness. As viewers, however, we know that Sally is alone and in the midst of a desperate search to find love and meaning. Her reality is the complete opposite of the glimpse that the lady from the deli witnesses in their brief encounter.

I have a couple of blogs that I check in on periodically, women who are great storytellers and whose humor I can really relate to. A couple of weeks ago I was making the rounds, and I noticed that one of these great blog posts had 38 comments. 38. I wanted 38 comments, and before I knew it, I wanted her blog, her graphics, her ministry, her speaking topics, her followers. “I’ll have what she’s having thank you very much.”

I'm sure that I've mentioned before and will again that I’m pretty very moody, and this is the kind of thing that sends me into a nose dive, tail spin, all things bad kind of a mood. I had a pity party, everyone invited/forced to attend if you live in my house. I knew nothing about this woman’s life, her struggles, or her family, yet I had this vision of her highly successful, wonderful life full of wit and wisdom. Why does God need me when He has her?

Eventually, I snapped back into reality and realized that I had been a blogger for all of 5 minutes. I’d made 3 posts and had told exactly 3 people that a blog with my name attached to it even existed. Of those 3, maybe two could have told you the name and only 1 had ever read a single word that had been written here. I am proud to say that that number has now doubled.

I was at a speaking conference recently, and many of the speakers there talked about each individual’s sphere of influence. I was reminded of that. God has placed me here in this community, in this ministry, to reach the people that He puts in my path. Jeremiah 29:11 says, “I know the plans I have for you…” I want those plans, the plans He has for me, even if that includes a blog with 0 comments, maybe 2 comments, okay 0 comments, but 2 would be nice. 


With much love,


Tonya